Somewhere in the history of lesbian labels, all women who dressed with a masculine flare became studs (at least in the African American community). White women get called "butch" apparently. Anywho, each label makes me cringe a little because these terms have a machismo connotation that I do not wish to be associated with. Yes, I am the aggressor in my relationship and yes I wear traditionally male clothing at times... "at times" being the key words.

For many narrow-minded women in the community, everything is this or that. You're a fem or a stud. You're a giver or a receiver. You're the man or you're the woman. In all honesty, this strips away the beauty of being a lesbian. Not to say that studs paired with fems are a bad thing. I mean, if that's your preference... then go get'em tiger lol. Still, it becomes a problem when that is all we know as a collective community.

Leave room for those of us who can wear masculine attire and feel comfortable laying in the arms of another. It's truly the best of all worlds. (Biased of course, lol)